It’s Not What You’re Called, It’s What You Answer To

Yesterday the New York Times ran a grossly misplaced article in their “Fashion” section about mommy bloggers called Honey, Don’t Bother Mommy.  I’m Too Busy Building My Brand.  It seems the author – a mommy blogger herself – came to a small regional blogging conference under the guise of shooting the breeze, and ended up producing a condescending, one-note piece that basically skewered the women in attendance.

Tiffany and Heather, the women behind mega blog The Secret is in the Sauce and organizers of the referenced conference, posted their and others’ responses to the article.  As you can imagine, many bloggers are upset.  They’re upset at the implication that becoming a success in your chosen field necessarily requires ignoring your motherly duties.  They’re upset (and rightly so, I think) about the snarky tone of the article, the nose-in-the-air attitude that blogging in general requires more use of exclamation points and pithy taglines (yes, the author actually used the word “pithy”) than real thought and preparation.  And some are upset that a woman they considered one of “their own” instead unzipped the sheep’s disguise to reveal a much darker intention.

I get why everyone is upset, and I was certainly less than impressed with the article myself.  But you know what?  In the end, I just don’t care.  In fact, I almost feel like the uproar in the blogging community shows why others think we’re so self-absorbed.  We get into these circular, insular patterns of blogging about blogging, blogging about blogging conferences, blogging about what others are saying about blogging.  I’m doing it right now.  But only to say this:  ladies, we know what we’re doing and why.  We know we’re not always pithy, we know we add value, we know we matter.  AND we know we’re good mothers without someone from the New York Times vouching for us.

Take this as one more example of someone who just doesn’t “get it,” and let’s carry on.

  • I’m not a mommy blogger, but I am a member of SITS, and I had to tell you that this is the BEST response to this article I’ve seen. You hit it right on the head…the bloggers know their truth, and that’s all that should really matter. “I almost feel like the uproar in the blogging community shows why others think we’re so self-absorbed.” I absolutely agree with this. Getting so hostile and defensive, to me, gives the appearance that one feels guilty because the article hit a little too close to home.
    .-= Elle @ A for Effort´s last blog ..G for Geology (which starts tomorrow!) =-.

  • I’m not a mommy blogger, but I am a member of SITS, and I had to tell you that this is the BEST response to this article I’ve seen. You hit it right on the head…the bloggers know their truth, and that’s all that should really matter. “I almost feel like the uproar in the blogging community shows why others think we’re so self-absorbed.” I absolutely agree with this. Getting so hostile and defensive, to me, gives the appearance that one feels guilty because the article hit a little too close to home.
    .-= Elle @ A for Effort´s last blog ..G for Geology (which starts tomorrow!) =-.