My Oldest Is 16 Today


For those who have mentioned the excitement of my daughter turning 16 today, my reaction has probably seemed confusing (I’m referring to the low mumbling and the rolling of the eyes).  I, too, am excited for my daughter and this time of her life, but there is naturally a little part of me that finds it bittersweet to have her growing so fast.  I’m also concerned that things won’t be nearly as “different” as my daughter anticipates now that she’s reached this milestone.  She’s still her, we’re still us, and there are still family rules to follow and expectations to meet. 

But yes, yes, some big changes DO inevitably come with being 16.  She will be able to date now, with rules of course.  They must be group dates, no 1-on-1 yet.  She needs to date more than just one person all the time.  Her curfew is 11pm, unless the event ends at 11pm, then we’ll agree beforehand on a reasonable amount of travel time to get home and then adjust her curfew accordingly.  For every time she’s late without prior arrangements, her curfew goes back 5 minutes.  She can’t go on a date every single Friday and Saturday night – there still needs to be a balance with schoolwork and family time.

She does not have her permit yet, so there’s no license to look forward to today, and I feel kind of bad about that.  We have to send her to a driving school here, and it’s going to cost a small fortune.  We haven’t exactly had that lying around, and our daughter has been very understanding.  The goal is to get registered by the end of the month, get her started towards her license, and hopefully by the fall she’ll be behind a wheel.

She’s been very eager to have some kind of job with regular income, and we have a promising lead on that.  She really wants to begin earning her own money, and I would love for her to pay for her own cell phone!

So yes, some things do change with becoming Sweet 16.  But one thing will never change:  she’ll always be my baby!



  • Jen

    I consider myself both a friend of yours and a friend of your daughters. While I know it’s none of my business, I was/am very curious to see how the much awaited “dating” would be handled by you guys. Sounds like you have some good rules in place. I hope she has fun and learns good relationship lessons. Good luck to you and her!
    .-= Jen´s last blog ..End of January Progress Report =-.

  • I too am not/am looking forward to my daughter turning 16 – thankfully I have several more months to wait, watch, learn and figure out how we will handle the wonderful/dreaded day! I feel for you as a mom and I wish Hannah an amazing sweet 16 year!

  • Lauralee Hensley

    Happy Birthday Hannah. Hannah is a great name.
    Sixteen can be a great year, but just remember to heed your folks advise, because they’ve lived through that age themselves and just don’t want you to get hurt. They love you and only want the best for you. So even on those days when you think you know it all (and believe me, you do at this age), it might be wise to to check in with the folks and get their input.