Is Boring Better?

The only things I really like about the film The Devil Wears Prada are Anne Hathaway’s bangs.

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I mean seriously – is she rocking those bangs, or what?

We rented the movie when it first came out, and I didn’t like it then; it was just on tv the other night, and I don’t like it now.

Anne’s character – Andy – goes from frumpy, intellectual elitist to posh, fluent-in-fashion, magazine employee during the course of the movie, and she gets completely punished for it.  Her friends tell her she’s sold out, her boyfriend doesn’t even recognize her anymore.  Andy only falls back into their good graces when she gives up the glitz, the glamour, and admittedly some of the FUN she’s having to revert back to the drab, Plain Jane girl they all love and accept.

You can argue that Andy had somehow given up a piece of herself to fit into her new life, and that her friends were just trying to “save” her, but I feel a totally different vibe from this movie.

Sometimes people want to break out, they want to mix things up, they want to CHANGE.  There are, after all, whole worlds out there in orbit around us – we are just impervious to their gravitational pull because we’re so wrapped up in our own little universe.  But sometimes it feels good to play the explorer, and sometimes even better to find that a new world is hospitable and might just be to your liking.

I hate that we sometimes get down on each other for trying out new things, for acting “out of character.”  Characters are for movies, people, even bad ones like The Devil Wears Prada.

I feel like I’m heading into a mid-life crisis soon.  I’m only 35, but putting everything on speed dial like I have – marrying young, having children young – makes me feel MUCH, MUCH OLDER some days.  I recently had the chance for tickets to see two musicians in a small little nightclub in downtown Houston, and my husband looked at me like, “Are we really those types of people?”  As in, do conservative, married parents of many children really drop everything to go see two up-and-coming artists in a trendy little nightclub?  I was so angry at myself, because even *I* had to wonder.

But it all just makes me want to scream, “When did I suddenly age 20 years?!”  I want to do certain things and try certain things and be certain places and not have people frown on me because I’m not doing or being what they expect.  That’s what drives me so nuts about this stupid movie, and that’s what hits such a nerve for me.

It’s not just my age or my stage in life, or even my religion (because NOTHING I am talking about wanting to do would ever compromise my standards) – I think it happens all the time, to people in all walks of life.  We’re just more comfortable with people when they act how we expect, and they give us what we’re used to.  As if all the world believed that boring really is better.

  • Thanks for your thoughts. You touch upon something that I think about quite regularly and I would love a chat with you about it someday. Boring isn’t necessarily better; it’s more consistent. The nay-sayers permeate every aspect of life and will criticize whether you change (because you’re not being you) or if you stay the same (because you’re so boring–“you” being the general use).

    Go to the nightclub. Figure out if you’re “those types of people” while listening to two up-and-coming artists. And then write all about it on one of your blogs so we can have a little part of your adventure too 🙂

  • I totally see you as the person who drops everything (after making sure the kids are taken care of) to go see two up-and-coming artists in a trendy little night club. Heck yeah!! 😀

  • LCM

    Good for you wanting to try new things. My mom married young, had tons of kids and now never wants to leave the house, including to see her grandkids. I think a willingness to try new things keeps you young. I read the book and I got irritated with her family and friends as well. How come no one bags on doctors like that, a year of internship is similar and she was guaranteed to have a great job at the end. Plus, everyone was bagging on her because she didn’t race home from Paris when her friend had a serious drunk driving accident. A friend, not her sister or parents. I couldn’t watch the movie so much either, the ending was much more satisfying in the book.
    Keep trying new things and wanting to be yourself.

  • I wasn’t happy with that movie either, but I couldn’t figure out why.
    I think you hit the nail on the head.
    It was like both groups wanted her to be like them instead of what she was happy with.

    Lately I’ve felt like I’m changing inside – if that makes any sense. I think/hope it’s for the better.

  • You know, you are right about that movie. She was building a career and everything and having a blast at it and her boyfriend was especially a jerk about it.

    🙂

    I’m the same. I’ll be 37 in a few months. I’ve always been a planner and scheduler though; even with the party scene — though I was fun in a crowd! Still am! It’s just that I No Longer like crowds so much.

    I’ve fallen into happy with my solitude. Jump out of the box if you want to — others might even be encouraged to do the same!

    Thanks for your take on things!

  • FYI, I put your badge on my blog! 🙂

  • I was soo excited about this movie when it came out – I mean look at the title it looked like FUN – but I too hated it when I saw it – you are right on – I just couldn’t figure out what it was that bothered me.

  • I was soo excited about this movie when it came out – I mean look at the title it looked like FUN – but I too hated it when I saw it – you are right on – I just couldn’t figure out what it was that bothered me. I too find myself in your shoes – turning 36 this year, been married for 16 years with a house full of kids, I asked for it, I wanted it. But sometime I just wanta have fun.