Today marks one month since I outlined my 101 Goals in 1001 Days. I had hoped to do a weekly “Goal Call” in order to keep myself accountable, but I realized that (a) I’m too busy to do that every week (I have 101 goals I am trying to accomplish, after all!), and (b) the first week’s Goal Post was slightly dull. So, we’re just going to look at a Highlight Reel from time to time.
Right off the top, I am failing miserably at a massive pile of the goals. Especially the ones I meant to keep weekly and monthly. We’re not going to go into all of it right now – I’m a busy mama, whatever. I have also come to realize that I set goals I ultimately don’t care about right now. I’m hoping to reevaluate soon and see if some goals need to be replaced by more pressing concerns. What are goals if they aren’t flexible, breathable things? Obligations, I guess – and I already have enough obligations in my life.
So, where am I succeeding?
*I bought myself a wearable item this month. I am sure this isn’t a big deal to most of you, but I have a terrible time purchasing anything for myself, though I might turn around and spend $100 on updating clothes for the kids. I happened to find a shirt and capris on clearance for $5 each at Walmart, and I love how they both look on me. $10 for a little happiness? I need to convince myself of this more often.
*Taking the children out individually: I get a 4 out of 5 on this, because I confess, I didn’t squeeze daugther A10 this month. Daughter M11 and I have a weekly Sonic Slushy date now, I took daughter H14 out to lunch at Chili’s last weekend, and son I7 and I went to the library together last night. Eli gets me to himself all the time! But daughter A10? She somehow slipped through the cracks. I need to make that up to her.
*I made freezer jam! Well, Maria mostly made it, but you’ve got to hear this story. My friend said that she had something she wanted to do with me for my birthday, but she kept it a surprise until she came over this morning. In two bags she carried all the spoons, measuring cups, bowls, and ingredients necessary for making strawberry freezer jam. She knew that it was one of my goals to learn to make it, so she decided that she would teach me. HOW THOUGHTFUL!!! That is honestly such a thoughtful, creative gift, to consider giving me a new skill, and helping me accomplish a goal at the same time. THANK YOU, MARIA!
*I had my first of 11 large gatherings in my home. A blogging friend asked me: why that goal? It’s mostly because I get very anxious about having people over to my house. I’m worried about what they will think of my housekeeping, my decorating, my food, etc. I know it’s dumb, but there it is. On Tuesday of this week I had 9 other women over for this month’s book club meeting. I decided that if I was going to play hostess, I was going to put some effort into it. So, I made nice invitations, cleaned my house as best I could, and had my husband make chicken tortilla soup, and homemade pumpkin and pecan pies. There was a whole “fall theme” to the invitations and the food, as well as the few decorations I put out. I liked the feeling of preparing for them to be in my home, and I believe everyone had a fantastic time!
*Copy/paste/print first blog: thanks go out to another friend for helping with that. THANK YOU, DALLAS! My first blog, kept from Dec 31, 2005 to May of 2007, turned out to be 350+ pages in a Word document. Dallas printed it all out for me, and I now have it in a 2-inch binder. Crazy to think that I wrote so much over that time period!
*Reread Harry Potter books 1-6: I am being flexible here and instead of “reading” them, I am listening to them on tape. I’m still just on book 1, but I love having it in the car while I run the kids here and there, or while I wait for them at different places. It has been a much better way to pass the Mom’s Taxi time.
*Take a music appreciation class: I am being flexible here, too. I have very little time or resources to take a class right now, but I found out that my library has a series of independent learning CD’s called Modern Scholars. There are dozens of different class topics, and one of them is on classical music! I am really enjoying the CD set I am listening to right now – the lectures are not at all dry, and I love the format of the lessons. My goal at the end is to be able to identify different themes in classical music, as well as specific pieces and composers.
The one category that is experiencing the sharpest spike in FAILURE is “Household.” I am learning as the weeks pass that serious housekeeping is not high on my priority list. Don’t get me wrong, I’d like to think that my home is fairly neat and not a total trash heap. But if I have to choose between deep-cleaning a room, scrubbing a toilet, or changing all the linens AND learning something new, spending time with my kids, or reaching out to other, I’ll choose dust, dirty toilets, and used sheets every time. This hasn’t been a huge surprise to me as I endeavor to meet these 101 Goals, but it’s been enlightening all the same.